One of my favorite jdrama is Long Vacation. The main lead is an aspiring pianist who is in a rut. There is a scene in the drama the main characters are talking about how he is no longer entering in piano competitions and contemplates giving up altogether. Rather, he’s just floating by giving piano lessons to kids. The female lead suggests, maybe, he is just in a long vacation.
I’ve always loved that concept of long vacation. Maybe you’ve falling off the exercise bandwagon, or the eating well bandwagon, or the homeschooling well bandwagon. But you haven’t failed, just taking a long vacation.
Or as I like to tell my children when I’m feeling lazy, 休息是為了走更遠的路。
This year, we’re staying with my parents for 6 weeks while I help my sister with her sitting month. The kids stayed with their other grandma the first two weeks. I spent my kids-free time doing mostly brainless activities, waiting for my 3 meals to be served, not tidying or tackling the huge list of things I’d wanted to accomplish during my time here.
Finally I got bored enough to get off my butt and do some stuff. Stuff like:
Reading Raising an Emotional Intelligent Child. The author, John Gottman, is a researcher who studies marriages and his conclusion is that we all need to be emotionally intelligent and learning this skill starts in childhood.
We all know the drill of acknowledging children’s feelings, but he goes a step further. How do you guide them when they’re having a moment, be it a tantrum or being sad or angry, and help them during those moments to be aware of and to process their emotions.
For my second profile, I’ve asked a fellow homeschooler in our co-op group, the one I used to call Super-prep Co-Op Mama. I’ll be calling her Eclectic Mama (with her approval) here even though she says she’s a Fake Unschooler because when we looked up the definition of unschooling, it didn’t quite fit. I understand why she wants to call herself that, but her curriculum method is really more eclectic.
Almost Unschooling Mama has 2 kids, 6.1 girl in kindergarten and 2.0 boy. I would sum up her philosophy as Reading, Math, and social skills is non-negotiable, for everything else follow the child’s interest.
This year, I met so many new parents who are considering homeschooling in the upcoming school year. I have so many things I want to tell them. But then I refrain because I know a lot of how we homeschool reflects our own personal experience growing up, how we think our children ought to be taught, our own children’s personality and their academic level, etc.
For me, I’d already chosen the Montessori curriculum years ago. However, I’ve since learned that Montessori homeschooling is different from a Montessori public education, you get to be more fluid and you can customize and tailor. Now that I have a better understanding of what the Montessori curriculum actually means, I’ve relaxed and started looking at other curriculum.
So I thought what I would do is to interview people who have different educational philosophies and highlight how they’re homeschooling, the curriculum they use, their daily routines, etc. Basically be nosy and get answers to questions I always want to know whenever I meet a new homeschooler!
Hopefully this series will be helpful for people who are just starting to research homeschooling.
Monday morning, I woke up at 8am to a just made cup of oolong tea and the children having already eaten their breakfast of heated milk and scrambled eggs, cooked by Thumper. Right now, both kids have been quietly working by themselves for at least an hour, the first in many, many weeks.
It’s so good to have our routine and normalized classroom back.
Ever since we got back from Christmas Break we’ve been having a hard time getting back into the routine of things. The children often woke up at 8:30 and didn’t start work till 10am. It culminated with Astroboy getting sick and for two to three days, both kids were waking up at 9:00, 9:30am. He didn’t go to school those days.
The short story is, we’re considering staying in Taiwan for 3 months like we did 2 years ago and I’m starting the planning process.
The Long Story
A few moths ago, Thumper started speaking English, even when she’s in Chinese play dates. By this I mean she clearly knows the words in Chinese but she didn’t want to speak it. She seemed to want to flaunt her English for some reason.
After yelling at her a few times, I went into Project Speak Chinese mode and I started contemplating a stay in Taiwan again. I guess I should be glad that out last stay lasted us 2 years of Chinese speaking.
Oh the pain, the pain. I’m currently working on modifying the beautiful 2015-2016 work plan I had set up last semester for Thumper. How great and beautiful was it? The week we were to leave for winter vacation, she had two wonderful days where she just followed her work plan and finished everything on her plan in about 3 hours.
She was so proud of herself.
Then, the day before our trip, I told her that we had to run some errands and pack. She actually asked me how she could then squeeze in her work. She was worried she couldn’t get her work done for the day in time. Sadly, I had to tell her that it was okay to not work that day.
I finally got my hands on the book 我家就是國際學校 My Home is an International School this afternoon. I devoured it in an hour. It will require a reread probably.
This is a book written by a Polish homeschooling mom and her Taiwanese husband, about their trilingual (Mandarin, English, and Polish) homeschooling journey in Taiwan. The mom, Dorota, has a Masters in Chinese. And obviously she learned English (starting from middle school?) in Poland. She has two kids, a girl and boy and is Montessori trained. The old one is 18 this year. That was one reason I had been eyeing the book for 2+ years, since I’m trying to do bilingual Montessori homeschooling. I had also heard in an interview how she had to figure out how to work with her son’s learning style, which was different from her daughter’s.
Last year, I had a work plan that I probably followed for about a few weeks. I felt bad that I posted about it and didn’t actually use it. This year’s work plan has been test driven for a few months and so far it’s sticking.
The biggest mistake I made last year was not having a tight work plan. I gave Thumper way too many choices. Without a classroom routine set up, she did not know how to use her freedom of choice. It’s akin to teaching Thumper how to cook by showing her each step slowly, making sure she has mastered certain skills, before giving her more responsibilities. For example, to teach her to make hot chocolate, first she learned to just mix the cocoa and sugar, then I taught her how to pour milk into a pot and use the stove to warm it up. Only after she’s shown me she’s very careful with heated food did I allow her to pour her own milk into the hot chocolate mix. This took at least 6 months. I realized I needed to really show the kids the steps before giving them free rein. It’s inherently different in a homeschool because the child isn’t coming into a very well established classroom with kids showing them how to do these things. So it’s all up to me to implement them.
Well, at least this month’s curriculum planning only took 3-4 hours. I decided to group them together because Dec will be a short month and Nov we will have about 1/2 week off.
I think I covered about half of what I wanted to last month, not too bad.
I can feel the laze starting to set in. Which means that my presentation calendar isn’t as detailed as it used to be. I hope it doesn’t really come back to bite me. On the days when I’m good, it is still very nice to just check the calendar and see what presentation I’m supposed to give.
The kids actually did sing a Halloween song last month and I hope to cover one this month. We even managed to make some ceramic pumpkins.